Achelois writes about the case of those South Asian women who marry young into wealthy families in the Gulf, and how they lose their past and their identities in the process. She compares this to those men who marry Western women, and how the cultures vary considerably.

I feel sorry for these women because they have lost their identity. That is something that to me would be very painful. To come to a strange land where your husband lives with his very large family who speak in a language you are totally clueless about can be very daunting. Your in-laws will speak in that language with your co-wife while you sit looking at them blankly.