Of Tales and Storytelling

Sometimes it’s tough to speak the truth. While raising a child. Shawna writes-

Here’s a last one for the road. Last weekend, I decided to separate Noah and TV in a big way. He got about 40 minutes of TV today. That was all this week. Why? He can’t sleep, he doesn’t read, he’s constantly agitated, what he sees on TV is all he talks about, he screams at me, he started telling me to shut up (from Toy Story) . . . I could go on and on. But mostly it was the agitation. The same agitation we noticed shortly after his birth and every time we’ve decided to get rid of TV since. Why do we keep coming back to this place?Anyway. The semi-lie. I told him the TV is sleeping. Technically, it is sleeping when it’s turned off. I consult with the TV when Noah asks if he can watch something, usually by looking at it, going, “mmmm” and pursing my lips. But today my consultation took me into the office where I “talked” to the TV on the computer. Really, I opened a Gmail chat with Nathan. (Interpret Nathan as the TV how you will.)

“You’re talking to the TV through the computer?” Nathan was skeptical.

I try not to take advantage of the fact that Noah doesn’t know any better. But in case you’re wondering, you can “talk” to the TV thorugh the computer in a way. If you have the right DVR setup and you want to schedule recordings while you’re away. We don’t have anything like that.

Nathan and I decided that since it was Movie Friday, it would be okay if Noah got the equivalent or less in TV time. I came out of the office. I told Noah the TV said it can wake up to let him watch two episodes of Caillou. It did. He watched them. The TV is now back asleep. Noah is upstairs in his crib avoiding a nap. I’m debating whether to get him up when his one hour expires, or leave him there until he actually sleeps for one hour. I think I’ll just get him up even though what I want is to lay down for a nap myself. If it’s not nursing or dealing with Noah in the middle of the night, all this “creative thinking” is sapping my energy.

Kids will be Kids

We were tipped about KidswillbeKids. Nabeel Akbar publishes his own books for children from this publishing house.

We did not read their books, but we checked a video based on one of their stories, and the story was nice, Masha’Allah,- even though the video was a little amateurish, it seemed to me that on print it will look a better.  There is need for more such efforts.

The Inverse Power of Praise

Muslim Mom discusses why positive reinforcement in children requires careful wording and an encouraging demeanour for it to be effective:

A group of studies found that students who are praised for being intelligent tend to quit whenever things get tough, whereas students who are praised for their effort become more persistent when faced with difficult challenges.

At first it seems like a small difference, to say “You really worked hard at this!” vs. “You’re so smart!” but the effects of praising a child’s intelligence and pegging him as a “smart kid” actually holds him back from acheiving his true potential.

Ijtema Photo Contest: The Winners!

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As the old adage goes, “a picture is worth a thousand words”. Even so, the judging panel of Ijtema’s inaugural competition was asked only to find the photograph that best represented one, single, four-letter word: “hope“; the theme chosen to commemorate the start of both the Gregorian and Islamic New Year. It is a time when people all around the world inadvertently synchronize in their resolve to change themselves for the better. Many a sincere prayer is made, asking for help in keeping to one’s newly formed good intentions; and what else is prayer, other than a expression of one’s hope in the beneficence of God Almighty?

The contest ran from January to March of 2008, and by the stroke of midnight on the eve of the deadline, we had received over ninety submissions, sent in from all corners of the globe (you can view them all on our Flickr group). The overall quality of the entries was amazing, masha’Allah, which made the task of choosing the winners even more daunting. Thankfully, we had recruited three very talented Muslim artists, who were well equipped to handle the job:

  • Peter Sanders, a true professional, who is internationally recognized as one of the worlds leading photographers of the Islamic World;
  • Teakster‘, an artist of enormous talent, who is the founder of the new digital arts magazine, Project Suwar;
  • and Samir Malik, whose wonderful artwork has been exhibited at various noteworthy establishments, such as The Houses of Lords, Alexandra Palace, County Hall, and Regents Park Mosque.

After several days of nervous score counting, the following images emerged as the clear winners (daff roll, please):

First Place: “Wish the best”, by ‘dianiwulandari’ (Indonesia)

It is clear to see why this photo was described as “very professional” by Peter Sanders (judge). This joyful image represents the tangible hope of a Indonesian couple looking forward to taking the first steps of their new life together in holy matrimony. May Allah grant them every happiness, Ameen.

First Runner Up: “Sehzadebasi Cami“, by ‘karanlikay’ (Turkey)

A humble slave of Allah worshipping in a Turkish mosque.

Samir Malik (judge) says:

“Essentially hope is submitting to God’s Will; in this photo I love how the figure is in the prayer position, maybe about to go into Sujood.”

Second Runner Up: “When We Look Out”, by Maryam Hamza (Malaysia)

This calming and contemplative sea view was taken on Pangkor Island, in Malaysia.

Teakster (judge) says:

“The reason why I liked this photo was the entire composure. It gives the reader the impression that the person inside the photo is looking towards the future, seeking the unknown. Hoping that the New Year will bring new prosperity.”

For more details of the prizes that were on offer, please visit the contest page.

In addition to the winners chosen by the judges, each member of the Ijtema.net editorial team selected their own favourite image as a special mark of appreciation:

Gess’ choice: “Hope…”, by Hanadi Traifeh (United Kingdom)

Photo description: “Engaging with nature and living the beauty of it is a gift from God that gives us more hope. The closer we become to nature the closer we see that life can be more beautiful.”

Gess:

“I chose this picture because of the composition, and I also liked the angle the photo was taken where there is a focus of the petals and how fragile they are – almost as if the wind is about to blow them away.”

Manas’ choice: “The Path of Noor”, by Peter Gould, www.azaan.com.au (Australia)

Photo description: “This is one of my favourite photos, taken while studying Arabic for a month in Morocco, 2006. I had become completely lost in the maze of the souk, and was blessed when this scene appeared before me – indeed, a journey towards guidance and hope.”

Manas:

“I chose this because of its stunning symbolism. The photo tells us: truly, there is light after darkness.”

Faraz’s choice: “Child and Quran”, by Jacob Simkin (Pakistan)

Photo description: H11 Relief Camp, Islamabad, Pakistan. Child attending Qur’an reading class. Over 1500 children live in H11 Relief Camp who have lost their homes during the October ’05 Earthquake. – Taken for Muslim Aid Pakistan

Faraz:

“To me, the boy shows that in spite of tragedy around him (the child was an earthquake survivor, according to the photo description), he will still hold on tightly to his Quran (Noorani Qaida, actually – for learning how to read). He may have been separated from his loved ones, but he will hold on to his Quranic learning as tightly as he can.”

iMuslim’s choice: “Embrace the Light Together”, by Widad Sirkhotte (South Africa)

Photo description: “In a [South African] township… [a] mosque unites muslims brothers of all ages, races and backgrounds. The building is far from fancy, yet the light of Allah shines through the windows. This magnificent light, lightens Islam… within their hearts.”

iMuslim:

“Every time I see this photo, I am blown away. The light streams forth, bringing joy and hope; the gathering denotes true brotherhood. Truly an amazing capture, masha’Allah”.

MJ’s choice: “Ortakoy”, by ‘carabul’ (Turkey)

Photo description: “Ortaky Mosque, officially the Byk Mecidiye Camii (Grand Imperial Mosque of Sultan Abdlmecid) in Istanbul, is situated at the waterside of the Ortaky pier square, one of the most popular locations on the Bosphorus. The wide, high windows let the ever-changing light reflections of the Bosphorus shine in the mosque.”

MJ:

“The expansive, brilliant blue sky suggests infinite possibilities and endless hope; the suspension bridge in the background – an engineering marvel – signifies modernity and technology, while the beautiful mosque in the foreground serves as a reminder to always stay grounded in our faith.”

We are grateful to all the participants for making this contest a pleasure to hold, with their beautiful submissions. Also, many thanks to the judges for their time, effort, and for donating prizes to be given away. Speaking of which, congratulations to Alia for winning a signed copy of Peter Sanders book, In the Shade of the Tree in our raffle draw!

If you missed out on all the action, don’t worry, as we hope to hold more of such contests in the future, God-willing. Feel free to contact us with suggestions for themes and collaborations.

In the mean time, Peace and Blessings of Allah to you all!

The Accident

A most moving account of an accident in school.

Abdul-Rahims heartbeat thumps against my body. It moves so quickly that I am afraid. I want to distract him, to amuse him. I switch to Urdu. There is very little that I can say in Urdu which is not related to food or classroom management. I wrack my brain. Tum mere dost ho, I sing to him. Tum mere dost ho, billi k gosht ho.

The Cutest Thing You’ll Read Today – Guaranteed!

This entry is so sweet, mashallah, it almost broke my fast!

My routine was broken and I’ll admit I felt jostled out of my calm. Would he ruin it? Would I have to attend to him and thus be unable to fully attend to my own needs? Selfishness was creeping up in me, as he climbed up on my lap.