“Tarek*,23, has been searching for a wife since his first year in college. With his parents’ full support and a steady job under his belt, Tarek began meeting girls through relatives, friends, and online. None proved a match.
A few years ago, Tarek was perusing material in a masjid bookstore and saw a girl there he thought could be a potential candidate.
“She seemed to be waiting around the place almost as if she wanted me to say something, but I just didn’t know how to approach her,” Tarek recalls. “Was she interested, or was it just my imagination? I didn’t want to make it seem like I was hitting on her because it would probably turn her off. It was mind-boggling and disappointing because I didn’t know what to do.”
Truly, Muslim men and women — especially those in the West — are missing opportunities to get to know one another in informal, yet religiously acceptable forums. With unplanned socializing out of the question, youth are scrambling for an alternative that will allow for careful interaction between genders. Often times, men and women are completely separated to the point where they find it awkward to interact on a basic social level.
An interesting conclusion
It seems that our communities have evolved so that today there are more “eligible” females than “eligible” males.
and an equally interesting answer
Anyways, so the girl is 24 years old and considering suitors. All the suitors that come are older than her ofcourse. And she’s wondering…why are most of these suitors not “good guys”? Well, because many of single Muslim guys over 25 are not “good guys”. They weren’t able to marry in their early 20s either because they weren’t smart/ambitious enough to figure out how
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This has to be one of the best blog entries i have read to date, mashallah – and the cheeky blighters at Muslim Matters didn’t even write it! MUST MUST MUST read it, because even if Allah has been merciful enough to spare you this affliction, you will still find the stories and advice therein applicable to the habitual sins you are having problems with. Yes, you! We all habitually sin, but how many of us try to fight the urge?