FYI, this is the 1000th post on Ijtema.net! Alhamdulillah! Who knew we’d come this far? It has been an amazing journey for the Ijtema team. May Allah continue to help and guide us, so we can safely reach the next millenary milestone, Ameen.
I feel sorry for these women because they have lost their identity. That is something that to me would be very painful. To come to a strange land where your husband lives with his very large family who speak in a language you are totally clueless about can be very daunting. Your in-laws will speak in that language with your co-wife while you sit looking at them blankly.
Many things. But did you know that it could be used to form an opinion as to what sort of future spouse you could be? Here is what brother Hammad has to say,
” ..one the ways you can find out about a prospective spouse is by the way he/she drives. That struck real cord with me because I notice how driving has so many similarities with our real life interactions with our surroundings…”
She looked up and heard the voice again. “Sisters, I need to ask you something if you don’t mind.” It was the woman with the frail voice, a convert, new to the Muslim community. She was extremely tall and gaunt. Her face had a pale, sickly quality to it, and the way she held herself suggested emotional and not just physical fragility.
Last Saturday (8/18) was just a regular old Saturday for me. I went to halaqah at the Masjid and there was a young couple getting married after asr. The sister was all done up in mendhi and the nikkah went as one would expect. Her walima was on the following Sunday. On Tuesday she went with a friend to the airport to drop off this friend. On her way back, for circumstances not yet known, her car flipped upside down and a passer by called 911 and told them that there is an upside down car. The sister was rushed to the hospital and entered into a coma. She died on Wednesday and was buried within hours of her death (these muslims here in KC down waste any time in putting you in the ground). The color from her bridal mendi hadn’t even faded off of her hands yet.
This has to be one of the best blog entries i have read to date, mashallah – and the cheeky blighters at Muslim Matters didn’t even write it! MUST MUST MUST read it, because even if Allah has been merciful enough to spare you this affliction, you will still find the stories and advice therein applicable to the habitual sins you are having problems with. Yes, you! We all habitually sin, but how many of us try to fight the urge?
From an Islamic perspective, one can plainly see the wisdom in practices such as not dating, and choosing a spouse who is better suited for the long-run (economically, socially, mentally, physically, etc.) than falling for the stereotypical “love-at-first-sight.’ I don’t believe that Islamic practices need ever be corroborated by outside sources, but having quick statistics (like the above) that are easy to understand is quite convenient, especially when having to explain, “What? Muslims don’t date?”