Prince Charming here, but I’m not an MD

Sondos Kholoki-Kahf explores the issues facing young Muslim men and women when they’re looking to tie the knot.

“Tarek*,23, has been searching for a wife since his first year in college. With his parents’ full support and a steady job under his belt, Tarek began meeting girls through relatives, friends, and online. None proved a match.

A few years ago, Tarek was perusing material in a masjid bookstore and saw a girl there he thought could be a potential candidate.

“She seemed to be waiting around the place almost as if she wanted me to say something, but I just didn’t know how to approach her,” Tarek recalls. “Was she interested, or was it just my imagination? I didn’t want to make it seem like I was hitting on her because it would probably turn her off. It was mind-boggling and disappointing because I didn’t know what to do.”

Truly, Muslim men and women — especially those in the West — are missing opportunities to get to know one another in informal, yet religiously acceptable forums. With unplanned socializing out of the question, youth are scrambling for an alternative that will allow for careful interaction between genders. Often times, men and women are completely separated to the point where they find it awkward to interact on a basic social level.

Poem: Wedding Night of a Muslim Woman

Fatima Barkatulla asks: “What did your wedding night mean to you?”

I wrote this a few days ago and tried to capture the feelings I had after my wedding, that evening when for the first time I prayed with my husband, and spent my first hours with him.”

My secret locked, a tale untold,
The only key, within your hand,
Too sacred for them to behold,
Too pure for them to understand.


Photo by Summers